To Help Others



If we allow ourselves to be pulled down by our sadness, regrets, and disappointments, we will never be able to help others. To help others we need to learn from our mistakes and decide how to do better next time. Then with joy that we have another opportunity to do better, we seize the moment to practice as we have been taught.




In separateness lies the world’s great unhappiness.
In unity lies the world’s true strength.

When we try to accomplish something by ourselves, many tasks can seem insurmountable and hopeless. If instead, we join with others to achieve our shared aspirations even that which seemed insurmountable can become possible. By working together, that which connects all of us is awakened with the insight that in reality there are no barriers of religion, race, ethnicity, gender—just oneness—just unity.



Good Fortune in Disguise

956849-787080-thumbnail.jpgIf we tell ourselves that something which has happened to us is bad, we will react in a negative manner. We might think "Why me?" or perhaps "What did I do to her?"

Try not to act from aversion. It is said that we should turn afflictions into bodhi, into awakening. We can use this unfortunate experience to deepen our understanding that nothing is real, that everything is temporary and changing. And if something is ever-changing and unreal, then so are our unwise reactions to it.
Also, sometimes, what we first thought was misfortune turns out to be good fortune in disguise.



Forget the Labels

We tend to categorize and label people, and then develop expectations based on those labels. 

For example, we think "spouse." Thinking spouse, we often expect the person to always love us. We think "friend" and with such thinking, we usually expect our friends to always be loyal to us.

If we then have difficulties with our spouse and friends and others around us, our labeling and setting of expectations can block us from amicably settling those difficulties.

Try forgetting the labels and think instead of the other person as another human being who simply wants the same things we do. He or she wants to end suffering and attain happiness. With an open heart, we just might be able to help the person get a little closer to what they wish to achieve.



Disengaged from Realty



It is often the case that whatever we are doing, be it sitting, walking, standing, or lying, the mind is frequently disengaged from the immediate reality and is instead absorbed in compulsive conceptualization about the future or past. While we are walking, we think about arriving, and when we arrive, we think about leaving. When we are eating, we think about the dishes and as we do the dishes, we think about watching television. This is a weird way to run a mind. We are not connected with the present situation, but we are always thinking about something else. Too often we are consumed with anxiety and cravings, regrets about the past and anticipation for the future, completely missing the crisp simplicity of the moment.

~ B. Alan Wallace, Tibetan Buddhism from the Ground Up