Do not wonder if others are doing their best.

Just make sure that you are. 

One of the first things we do upon arising from sleep is to look in a mirror. Even if we don’t leave our home, we tend to tidy ourselves up. During the day, chancing upon a mirror, we run a quick check of our appearance. Before retiring, we look in the mirror to wash our face, brush our teeth, etc. So we look in the mirror every day.

But what do we see?

Another wrinkle, a nice smile, our mother’s eyes.

We see what’s on the outside. But when we look at others during the day, it’s a different matter altogether. After noting their physical appearances, we tend to zero in on their mistakes. Like eagles zeroing in on their hapless prey. The eagles need to eat; our examining of others is pointless.

Let’s imagine another kind of mirror: a cultivation mirror. By holding it up to look directly into it, we block our view of what others are doing. And with that crystal-like clarity, we now see what we are doing. Are we happy with what we see? Or grimacing at our irresponsible ways.



When you have no say or influence . . . (Click image for video)


Always bear in mind that 

even our smallest deed 

can impact others. 

Most of us would like to help others, to make a difference in their lives. Some may choose careers of service. Committed to a cause, others may support it financially. Or dedicate their free time to volunteer work. The more we care, the more we want to do. Seeking to make a difference in the world, we consider the big picture.

But not everyone has the conditions to act at this level. And even those who can would do well to also look at the “small” picture because even the most minor action can impact others. Indeed, the degree of the impact is relative to the sincerity accompanying the action.

A polite “thank you” is always appreciated. But when that “thank you” is accompanied by a smile that carries up to the person’s eyes, and you feel the smiling person is genuinely thinking of you at that moment, it can carry us for quite some time.

So it’s not the magnitude of the action that makes a difference—it’s the sincerity.