Forgiveness does not mean we do not care or that the other person is pardoned (Click image for video)


Learn to be patient 

by observing those who are


Demanding people are, sadly, rarely satisfied. Situations seldom meet their expectations, relationships are often unfulfilling, completed projects fail to meet their standards, everything takes too long. Even the things they have control over often end in frustration.

Demanding perfection of themselves and everything around them, they often find they’re too hot, too cold, too hungry, too full, too early, too late. Basically, little meets their exacting standards. So they’re usually disappointed, distressed, or disgruntled.

Not a mindset we want to adopt! By practicing the paramita of patience, we’ll stop struggling with our conditions. Instead, we’ll accept that life doesn’t often go as we wish. And that’s alright.

So if we’re too warm, that’s okay. A little hungry? Stuck in a slow line? Working with those with a different work ethic? That’s life! And it’ll be much more pleasant when we are patient.



View hatred as an unwanted caller (Click image for video)


Learn to be moral 

by observing those who are 


An unrestrained person pursues her own preferences and attachments. If these coincide with the established guidelines and rules for good behavior, fine. But if not, she goes her own way, believing that it’s no big deal, justifying that she’s in a hurry, or just placing her happiness before that of others. Whatever.

Wrapped up in her own world, she doesn’t notice the discomfort she’s causing others.

If criticized for her behavior, she might lash out in embarrassment or frustration. She might even get into difficulties legally. She’ll undoubtedly be in trouble karmically for all the suffering she has left in her wake.

This is not someone we want to emulate. We don’t want to distress others. Or become argumentative or sullen when corrected. We want to live a principled life and not have any worries about our behavior.

We want to plant seeds for happiness, not suffering.