We do not know what is in the mind of another person.

And we would do well not to guess.

“Why did he do that?” “What was she thinking?”

Let’s face it, it’s tough enough to know why we act the way we do or say the things we say. So when someone asks us those questions about someone else, we are on the cusp of stepping into a minefield of wrong responses. We may try to participate in the conversation, but any answers are guesses at best. We should not even try.

The best response I have heard to such a query: “I do not know what is in the mind of another person.”

Okay—that’s good for several reasons. 1) It’s the truth. 2) We cut out the gossip. 3) We refrain from planting some more bad karmic seeds. 4) We don’t join in idle speculation that wastes time and can get others, and ourselves, in trouble.

I could go on, but you get the point.

So next time, when asked the above, try replying, “Sorry, but I don’t know what is in the mind of another person.”

From Rage to Forgiveness: What Lies Between (Part Eighteen)

When faced with a dreaded undertaking,

imagine storming a castle.

Allow me to begin with a disclaimer—I’ve never stormed a castle. At least not in my current lifetime. And so this truly is a posited metaphor.

I can think of two ways to get into our imaginary castle.

First, a frontal assault. This requires the person-in-charge to draw up the attack plans, procure the needed armaments, and enlist and train the necessary troops.

Overwhelming!

How about that second approach? Entering via an easy-entry back- door that leads to accessible, manageable areas.

Now, let’s apply our metaphor to real life. Storming our “castle” is an undertaking we have been putting off because it requires more effort than we can muster. But tackling a small bit? One that wouldn’t require much effort and would be easier to accomplish? That feels much more doable!

And so, the next time you find yourself procrastinating, break your undertaking down into smaller tasks. Upon completion, you’ll be in a strong position to finish off the rest of the “castle.”