Finding Time

Sometimes it is difficult to find time to meditate each day. But we always have time to watch TV. We always have time to go shopping. We always have time to get a snack from the refrigerator. Why is it that the 24 hours run out when it is time to meditate? When we understand the value and effect of spiritual practice, then it will become a high priority in our life, and when something is very important, we find time for it.

~ Ven. Thubten Chodron

Harrison

One of the many bonuses in traveling to give Dharma talks is staying with generous people who invite me to stay in their home. One such time in Australia, I had the pleasure of visiting the home of some good friends for a few days. Their son and daughter-in-law came from out-of-town with their two children. After the children were fed the mother was bathing the baby. From the next room, I could hear her talking to her laughing son in a monologue that sparkled with laughter, when at one point I heard her say "I’m sorry."

An adult was apologizing to her 11-month old son as naturally and courteously as someone would have apologized to a an adult they had just disturbed! A lively and healthy boy with an excellent vocal system, Harrison and his sister had kept their parents busy all day. Nonetheless, a mother who had every right to be tired had happily cared for her son and said, "I’m sorry" to him.

She had treated her son as respectfully as she would have a newly-met stranger. Such effortless and caring respect could only serve to improve any relationship.

Life is Like a Soap Opera

 

Real life is very much like a soap opera in which everyone plays a role. We all have the experience of following the emotional swings of the characters of soap operas. However, we rarely sense that the ensuing sentiments of joy, anger, sorrow, and happiness are but distinctions made by our own minds.

It is much the same in real life. More often than not, we allow our distinctions of circumstances or judgments of people to take charge of our emotions without being conscious about it. Furthermore, it seems we always find it easier to emulate bad examples than good ones.

This is because our delusions accumulated through eons can easily overwhelm us. Hence, we are often swayed by circumstances befitting our sinister desires.

On the other hand, how often have we claimed that “to tolerate the intolerable and practice the impracticable” is the attainment of buddhas and bodhisattvas, thereby excusing ourselves for not following their examples but merely praising them with empty words?

~ Analects of Master Kuang-ch'in

Just be Good

When I first attended the Dallas Buddhist Association, it was as a participant in a meditation group that was started for westerners. Several of us had called at the time a monk arrived from Miami. He was extremely out-going, with an infectious laugh.

One evening, I was helping him carry some supplies to the building the group met in. In Chinese culture, it is very normal to ask someone their age. Since the Chinese respect elders, you quickly realize this is an excellent way to determine how to act properly toward another person and not necessarily a reason to worry about your recent behavior.

As we were walking, the monk asked me how old I was. I told him that I was forty-eight. He carefully considered this for a moment and very sincerely responded, "Too old to learn. Just be good."

Over the years, people have reacted differently to the "Too old to learn" comment. Perhaps it was the way he said it, but I didn't get upset over the first part. I zoomed in on the latter part, "Just be good."

Such a simple instruction—just be good. That's all we have to do. We don't need to complicate our practice. Just recite and learn one sutra. Just chant one Buddha's name. Just focus on this moment. Just be good.

Chant for Me

Recently, a woman asked me to recite a sutra at a specific time on a certain day. She requested this because that was the time she was to undergo a medical procedure. I had mixed emotions about the request for a few reasons.

One was a practical one. While it is helpful for others to chant on our behalf, it is not nearly as effective as when we ourselves chant. At the most, only 1/7^th of the merits generated by our chanting can be transferred to that individual. And that is the optimal amount. To transfer 1/7^th, we would have to focus single-mindedly on our chanting. If our attention wanders, the merit that can be transferred is reduced the more our mind wanders. So if the most we’re starting out with is only 1/7^th, we haven’t got far to go before the chanting generates a negligible amount of merits to transfer.

Also, because we are chanting for one person, our mind is narrow and exclusive, so the merits we generate will also be limited. What about the other people in the hospital who are undergoing medical procedures? Those who are undergoing procedures in hospitals in the United States? In hospitals throughout the world? All those who are ill? Suffering?

When we dedicate the merits from our practice and Buddhist work to all beings, with the sincere wish for all beings to end suffering and attain happiness, our merits will be so much greater than when we dedicate them to one being. And we don’t even need to think of ourselves. We’re one of the “all beings.” When all beings benefit, we benefit.