Letting Go is Gaining

With attachments, all too often we find ourselves desiring what we wish for or perhaps missing what we had. It is as if we held a treasured item our hand. After a while, we might see it and little else.

Our thoughts keep returning to it, our eyes keep seeking it. We hold tight. We focus intently on the object of our desiring, our missing.

It is as if we were staring at a tiny grain of sand grasped firmly between two fingers.

We cannot let go.

In our focussing, we fail to look up. In our inability to let go, we do not see what lies beyond—the beach with countless grains of sand, seashells, birds, the sunrise, the sky.

What if we do let go?

We will gain so much more than that which we let go of.

Thoughts on Hearing of Terrible Events

It has been said that the true weapons of mass destruction are greed, anger, and ignorance. Because we are ignorant, we allow anger to grow into hatred. Hatred unleashed will have terrible repercussions. The pain that is left behind is unimaginable, lives changed forever in an instant. 

There are those in this lifetime who are victims who have apparently done nothing to warrant the deeds done to them. But our perspective is incredibly limited—limited to just this one lifetime. One out of countless lifetimes. A victim one lifetime. A perpetrator the next.

So often we ourselves give in to anger all the while thinking “Well, I don’t hate. I’m just irritated.” More precisely, we’re not thinking, not aware of what we are truly feeling and acting upon. It all starts with an individual, an individual who is not mindful of what they are thinking, saying, or doing. An individual who may be so focussed on self that there is no awareness of what is happening in the lives of others. 

This should not sound strange for we all do this every day. 

We need to be constantly vigilant to catch the rising irritation, resentment, frustration before it erupts. There are consequences to everything we do. They may be immediate. They may not occur for a thousand lifetimes. But occur they will. 

We need to let go of anger, frustration, resentment, selfishness, self-interest. If we fail to do so, one day our own consequences will come to us. And they may be terrible. We won’t know why they have happened because most likely the causes will have occurred in another lifetime.

What of the terrible things happening to others? We need compassion for the victim. That's the easy part. The harder part is to have compassion for the perpetrator who will one day be a victim.

For now, as we strive to have compassion for all, we grieve.

We grieve for all victims.

Of all times. 

And then we work harder to not add more fuel to this vicious cycle.

Amituofo

How Do We Change Social Policy?

In Buddhism, our thoughts are extremely important for as the Buddha said, “Everything arises from the mind and changes according to our perceptions.” So if we wish to accomplish something such as moving forward with social policy, we begin with the one thing we can truly influence and hope to control—our own thoughts, own mindset.

Let’s first consider what the mindset of  a person working for positive social policy should not be. History shows us that intolerance and egoistic thinking that I am right, and if you think differently then clearly you are wrong, has not brought about a peaceful world where all enjoy happiness and freedom from fear and want.

If thoughts of intolerance and egoism have not worked, what might? What personal qualities might we wish to foster?

Respect. The first of the Ten Great Vows in Buddhism is to respect all Buddhas. Not just the Buddhas of the past but also of the future. Believing that all beings have the ability to attain the mind state of an awakened one, we interpret “respect all Buddhas” as impartially respecting all beings. Those of other ethical teachings or faiths could look at the people and beings who are held in sincere respect and then extend widely that respect to others.

Patience. In everything we do, we need to be forbearing and persevering. Things that truly matter take patience. Clarifying our thoughts so we can express them clearly takes patience. Working with those who think differently from us takes patience. Listening—and hearing—others takes patience. Improving society takes patience.

Humility. The mindset of humility is that there is much I can learn from others. Indeed, humility is an excellent way to understand how others live, what they hope for and aspire to. It comes from security in one’s beliefs and who one is.

Humility comes from strength, not from weakness.

While insecure people may strike out at others, those who are humble, while perhaps being thought of as insecure, may well be very comfortable in their skin. Having accepted themselves, they do not worry about being accepted by others. Thus they are able to focus on, listen to, and learn from others without becoming agitated or feeling threatened. They can remain calm and that calm will be felt by others who in merely sensing that calm benefit from it.

Usually it is about this point that someone will ask me about the horrendous events our world has witnessed and witnesses. How can we be respectful and patient in the face of prejudice, ignorance, and hatred? I sincerely suggest that such events are not where we begin.

I don’t know about you, but I do not have any influence over what happens on the world stage. I venture to suggest that for most of us qualities like respect, patience, and humility are developed on a considerably smaller stage: with family, friends, and associates. If we become good at and develop these and other qualities, then hopefully we will have the conditions to effect a positive social change on a larger stage. We certainly hope so. But first, I propose we begin with ourselves.

Do We Have Free Will?

In Buddhism, the concept of free will exists within the context of karma. In the West, karma is usually thought of as a consequence. When something unfortunate happens, a person may say “bad karma!” meaning bad consequence.

In the Chinese traditions of Buddhism, which date back 2000 years and came directly from the Sanskrit sutras, sutras being the teachings of the Buddha, karma is understood to be a deed. This deed may be mental, verbal, or physical. But all are deeds, karmas.

The doing of this karma will have a consequence. This consequence will occur naturally, without an agent, essentially like the natural law of gravity. How might all this work. If I lie to a friend and she finds out, I’ll be in trouble with her. Perhaps this will happen immediately. Perhaps not for a long time. The timing of the cause is known, the timing of the consequence is not.

The timing of the consequence depends on conditions. Let’s say a co-worker says something to my friend and she suddenly realizes that I had lied to her. When the co-worker mentions something depends on activating conditions: being in the room with my friend, speaking with her, and mentioning what I lied about. When the activating conditions are present, my friend finds out I lied. She then angrily confronts me with what she has learned.

For purposes of discussion, let’s bring in free will here. Causes have been planted. The consequences have matured because the necessary conditions occurred. I now have two basic choices: own up or deny. And here is the free will at work. Admitting to myself that what I did was wrong, I make a conscious decision and choose to confess to what I had done. I choose to tell my friend that I am sorry and that I apologize for having not been honest with her. I choose to tell her that I will not lie to her again and that I hope she will accept my apology. I choose to tell her I will understand if she needs time to forgive me and that I hope she will give me another chance because I value her friendship.  

I choose to do all this because I realize that the choices I make will bear consequences. And not for just this lifetime. And not in equal portion to what I did. Unresolved animosities increase over time as they are passed back and forth between those involved. 

Free will is a vital part of our awakening, our becoming enlightened. The Buddha taught about karma to help us understand that we reap what we sow. It is said that “Unawakened beings fear consequences. Awakened beings fear causes.” So we need to wisely create good causes.

Free will is what helps us to mindfully and calmly look at our choices of what to say, think, and do, and decide how to adhere to the basic precepts of keeping our minds pure, doing good, and avoiding all that is bad.

Free will is understanding that we operate subject to our past causes, and current consequences and conditions. Within those constraints I need to—and have the ability to—make the wisest choices I can so that ultimately I will attain enlightenment and work to fulfill my vow to help all beings.

Is Truth Relative or Subjective?

When the Buddha was asked if he was a god, he replied, "No." An angel? No. A spirit. No. When the questioner then asked what he was, the Buddha replied he was awake. He then spent the rest of life teaching how to awaken—to attain a state of mind of perfect compassion and understanding, a state that is attainable by all beings. 

States of mind are important to understand because what we are discussing is whether truth is subjective or objective. In Buddhism when we speak of truth, we speak of two truths:  subjective as relative truth and objective as absolute truth. Which “truth” arises depends on our current state of mind, our level of awakening.

Having observed the absolute truth on his night of enlightenment, the Buddha explained that until we reached a specific level in our practice, we would not experience and thus know what the absolute truth was. For us truth would be relative, subjective, because we’d view everything though our delusion, ignorance, and flawed viewpoints.

Consider a coin, specifically a quarter (an American coin). Asked to describe what he saw, one person might look at one side of the coin and say a coin was a piece of metal with an image of a head on it. Looking at the other side of the coin, another person would say, no, a coin was a piece of metal with an image of an eagle. An awakened being would say the two sides were two aspects of one coin. In other words, to the deluded, the two appear distinct and different: relative truth. But to the awakened, they are one and the same: the absolute truth.

Okay, so here I am, an ordinary being who can’t tell what is true because I have so many mistaken viewpoints and perceptions. Clearly I have a problem. But knowing about the two truths, at least I realize I have a problem because while I may think I’m right, I also know I may well be wrong.

So what do I do? How do I function, wisely?

Until we reach that stage where we can tell true from false, ancient patriarchs and masters advised us to rely on the words in the sutras, the Buddha’s teachings based on what he experienced and witnessed when the boundaries of space and time disolved. What are the basic universal truths he spoke of? We reap what we sow, do not kill, do not lie, do not steal, treat others as you wish to be treated. Not surpringly, these universal, absolute, objective truths are taught by most religions and ethical teachings.

From a Buddhist perspective there are two truths: relative and absolute. Our practice is (1) to be aware that we unawakened beings invariably function from the relative and (2) to strive to attain the absolute.