Offering criticism in a timely, respectful manner.

(Part Two) 

Having learned previously in Part One who falls within our parameters for offering critical remarks to—those we have a good affinity with—we next need to know how we advise in a manner we wish others would use with us. Other than in times of danger, it’s largely a matter of timing and approach.

Try hard to not correct someone in front of others or when you’re upset.

Instead of bluntly criticizing them, phrase the comments in terms the person is more likely to accept.

Don’t say the person is wrong, just that you believe what they did was. Then explain why and what might have been done instead. Have a respectful conversation, don’t give a lecture.

As the Buddha advised: “If you know anything that is hurtful and untrue, don’t say it.

If you know anything that is helpful but untrue, don’t say it.

If you know anything that is hurtful but true, don’t say it.

If you know anything that is helpful and true, find the right time.”