Just be Good

When I first attended the Dallas Buddhist Association, it was as a participant in a meditation group that was started for westerners. Several of us had called at the time a monk arrived from Miami. He was extremely out-going, with an infectious laugh.

One evening, I was helping him carry some supplies to the building the group met in. In Chinese culture, it is very normal to ask someone their age. Since the Chinese respect elders, you quickly realize this is an excellent way to determine how to act properly toward another person and not necessarily a reason to worry about your recent behavior.

As we were walking, the monk asked me how old I was. I told him that I was forty-eight. He carefully considered this for a moment and very sincerely responded, "Too old to learn. Just be good."

Over the years, people have reacted differently to the "Too old to learn" comment. Perhaps it was the way he said it, but I didn't get upset over the first part. I zoomed in on the latter part, "Just be good."

Such a simple instruction—just be good. That's all we have to do. We don't need to complicate our practice. Just recite and learn one sutra. Just chant one Buddha's name. Just focus on this moment. Just be good.

Chant for Me

Recently, a woman asked me to recite a sutra at a specific time on a certain day. She requested this because that was the time she was to undergo a medical procedure. I had mixed emotions about the request for a few reasons.

One was a practical one. While it is helpful for others to chant on our behalf, it is not nearly as effective as when we ourselves chant. At the most, only 1/7^th of the merits generated by our chanting can be transferred to that individual. And that is the optimal amount. To transfer 1/7^th, we would have to focus single-mindedly on our chanting. If our attention wanders, the merit that can be transferred is reduced the more our mind wanders. So if the most we’re starting out with is only 1/7^th, we haven’t got far to go before the chanting generates a negligible amount of merits to transfer.

Also, because we are chanting for one person, our mind is narrow and exclusive, so the merits we generate will also be limited. What about the other people in the hospital who are undergoing medical procedures? Those who are undergoing procedures in hospitals in the United States? In hospitals throughout the world? All those who are ill? Suffering?

When we dedicate the merits from our practice and Buddhist work to all beings, with the sincere wish for all beings to end suffering and attain happiness, our merits will be so much greater than when we dedicate them to one being. And we don’t even need to think of ourselves. We’re one of the “all beings.” When all beings benefit, we benefit.

No More Time to Waste

Charles and Celine, the couple who run and are continuing to build the Amitabha Buddhist Retreat Centre here in Nanango, Australia, are away today attending a funeral.

I have heard them speak of the gentleman who died—a gentle, caring man—over the past, several years. Celine was the one who answered the phone call from the daughter. The father had been living in a care facility a good two hours from here. There might not be many people at the funeral since no one lived nearby.

When she heard of their old friend's death, Celine immediately responded that she and Charles would be there. The daughter was very grateful that her friends would travel so far to pay their respects to her father, and to be with her.

Change. Impermanence. Nothing lasts forever. A dream, a flash of lightning, a drop of dew. We know these, and yet we push thoughts of loved ones dying out of our minds. It hurts too much to think of it. We’re attached, and we cannot let go. We love, and we cannot bear the thought that one day we will lose those we love.

And so, on that most terrible day, that day the world drops away from below us, we find ourselves in shock and no longer with an option to push reality away. We are face-to-face with impermanence. We are alone. We are in pain. We suffer.

Lifetime, after lifetime, after lifetime, we cling and are attached. We know the reality, but we refuse to accept it. We prefer to live in ignorance, ensnared by our emotions and mired in our habits. This will continue into an endless future unless we change.

We need to awaken.

Now.

Good Spiritual Friend

 

“A good spiritual friend who will help us to stay on the path, with whom we can discuss our differences frankly, sure of a compassionate response, provides an important support system which is often lacking. Although people live and practice together, one-upmanship often comes between them. A really good friend is like a mountain guide. The spiritual path is like climbing a mountain: we don't really know what we will find at the summit. We have only heard that it is beautiful, everybody is happy there, the view is magnificent and the air unpolluted. If we have a guide who has already climbed the mountain, he can help us avoid falling into a crevasse, or slipping on loose stones, or getting off the path. The one common antidote for all our hindrances is noble friends and noble conversations, which are health food for the mind.”

~ Ayya Khema, When the Iron Eagle Flies

 

Can I Help?

Our thoughts can be converted in a second.

Imagine yourself rushing to class with an armful of books, the coffee you just bought, and your purse. Suddenly, somebody bumps into you and you lose your balance. You throw out your arms to try to stop yourself from falling and manage to catch yourself. But in the attempt your books go flying in all directions, your coffee cup falls to the walkway spilling its contents, and your purse opens and all the contents fall out. 

You turn around to yell at the idiot who caused this. You're about to yell "What's wrong with you! Why don't you look where you're going!" but you catch yourself. You're looking at an elderly woman who has fallen to the ground. She looks like she is about to cry. In an instant, you rush to her "Are you alright? Did you hurt yourself? Can I help you get up?"

If we could see as clearly the suffering and unhappiness behind the actions of others, we will be much less inclined to allow those feelings of irritation and self-pity to arise. Instead, we will be trying to find out if others are alright, if they are hurt, if they can help themselves or if they need our help.