This is Selflessness

Recently in a discussion about selflessness and helping others, someone said that for the vast majority of her time, there just aren't that many opportunities to help others. I can see how easy it is to feel that way, even for such a thoughtful person. After all, most of us are ordinary people without much influence over others. With ordinary jobs and ordinary lives, how much can most of us do? How many opportunities do we really have to practice selflessness?

Then one gentleman said to think of what happens when we go to the supermarket. All the products we buy help support countless others. So in that way she was helping others. I suggested another way of filling that supermarket cart. By not buying meat or fish, even for one day a week, we were not supporting an industry that is based on killing and suffering. By buying locally-grown foods, we are supporting local farmers instead of a system that relies on monoculture and the heavy use of petroleum, and which further damages our environment and uses up what would have gone to future generations.

This is selflessness.

The gentleman responded with examples of how we can be more considerate in driving to and from the supermarket. By driving less aggressively, we can allow others to pull in ahead of us or simply drive in a more polite manner that doesn't contribute to road rage.

This is selflessness.

When we get home from shopping and prepare that night’s dinner, we can be more aware of not wasting any food. Instead of fixing a bunch of food, we can fix just what we or our family can eat, or plan on saving the leftovers for another meal. And then remember to eat it before it goes bad. As to what is served that night, unless we are ill, we should be responsible for eating everything on our plate. In the “developed” countries as much as twenty-five percent of the food we bring home is thrown out. Our planet does not have enough resources to allow such waste to continue any longer. What we waste today would have gone to our children and grandchildren tomorrow. Instead of mindlessly wasting food, we can value all the work and resources that went into producing it and use everything we bring home.

This is selflessness.

As the day winds down in the evening, we can check on others in the household to see if they are okay or if perhaps they are concerned about something that happened during the day or not feeling well.

This is selflessness.

Every single one of us can practice selflessness. It is the sincerity behind the action that matters. Think of the story of the woman and her offering of an oil lamp to the Buddha:

King Ajatasatru invited the Buddha to preach and offered as a token of his piety several tens of thousands of lamps. At the time, an old woman (named Nanda) who had been begging, and had only managed to collect two coins, bought some oil with them and offered it all in a small lamp to the Buddha. [With this offering she vowed to eliminate the darkness of the sufferings of all people.] Old and hungry, she later collapsed and died.

By the next morning the many lamps offered by the king had already burned themselves out, but the lamp of the poor old woman was still burning with increasing brilliance. When it proved impossible to extinguish it, the Buddha explained that it was so because of the donor’s extremely fervent faith and transcendental vow. ‘The light of a Buddha can never be extinguished’ said the [Buddha] who then predicted that she would attain Buddhahood.

Nanda did not think that her small offering was unworthy. She probably didn't think of waiting till she could afford more oil for the lamp. She simply gave.

This is selflessness.

Making the Choice Every Day

Preya is what is pleasant now, though in the long run it leads to insecurity and distress. Shreya is what is permanently beneficial, though it sometimes seems unpleasant at first. We are so poorly educated in the art of living that we prefer temporary satisfaction, even though it may lead to permanent loss, to the adventure of bearing a temporary displeasure that leads to permanent fulfillment.

We have to make this choice between preya and shreya every day.

~ Like a Thousand Suns by Eknath Easwaran

What's the Urgency?

The reality of life in Samsara (the cycle of rebirth) is that as humans our lives are incredibly short, an average of some seventy odd years. Of those years, roughly one-third is spent sleeping, years are spent in growing up, a good portion of our adult life is involved in work, and so on. After all these activities, how much time do we really have to spend on our practice?

We can spend our lifetime reading about Buddhism and this can certainly feel like an admirable use of our time. But while learning about our chosen method of practice is vital, reading about other schools and traditions runs the risk of becoming a distraction.

We need to remember that our lifetimes are short and we do not know when we will breathe our last breath. The Buddha advised people who would be living in other times to learn and practice other methods. But for those in our time he recommended the Pure Land method so we could transcend the cycle of rebirth by being reborn in the Western Pure Land.

Once there, we will be in the presence of Amitabha Buddha and uncountable bodhisattvas. No longer hampered by a short lifetime or a need to work or sleep or do all the other things we humans do, we will have all the time we need to learn from these beings who have progressed farther than we have. Finally, the time will be right for us to learn all the different methods and practices we will need to help an incredible range of beings end their suffering and attain happiness, and break through delusion and attain enlightenment. Until those of us who are drawn to this path attain that rebirth, we need to remember this is our primary goal.

What’s the urgency?

Sakyamuni Buddha compared the odds of our being reborn as a human to the likelihood that a blind sea turtle, surfacing from the depths of the ocean only once every century, would encounter a tree trunk with a hole suitable for nesting. That’s how unbelievably rare our opportunity to have been born as a human is. And there’s more. Next, we needed to be reborn during the period of time after the appearance of a Buddha so we could hear the Dharma. Then we needed to have the right conditions to hear those teaching, then to find the specific teaching that is right for us, then to find a teacher we can learn from and Dharma friends to practice with. And when we have finally managed to accomplish all this, we have to realize that all we can count on is our next breath!

We need to use this rarest of opportunities to focus on and achieve in our practice. If we fail to do this, we will carry the seeds from our practice with us, but as the Buddha cautioned, it will be a long time for we ordinary people to encounter these wonderful conditions again. We cannot afford to waste time.

I know that on the surface seeking our own release from suffering can sound selfish. And the urgency stressed above can seem a tad over the top. When I first heard that our primary goal is to seek rebirth, the conversation in my head would come up with things like “But I need to help those who can’t understand Chinese” and “People want to learn now. What about them?” and “I still have time.”

Well, after taking the three refuges and five precepts under Ven. Master Chin Kung almost fifteen year ago and having been involved in learning and working with the teachings for much of that time, in the past twelve years virtually on a daily basis, I have learned a few things. :-)

One of the things I have learned is that my ability to help people in this lifetime, even as a nun who spends a great part of her time in different aspects of propagating the Dharma, is limited. I don’t know very much. My level of achievement is extremely modest, my abilities inadequate. I make mistakes all the time and am not nearly as skillful in helping others as I should be. In short, there isn’t a lot I can do to truly help people. I just don’t have enough time. Life can and does end in a moment. And as someone shared with me recently, “If we don’t attain rebirth in this lifetime—what a waste.”

So, we need to focus. Now, not next year, not after we learn everything. We need to remember the first vow of Buddhas and bodhisattvas: “Sentient beings are innumerable; I vow to help them all.”

How do we focus, and then how do we maintain that focus? Perhaps we can ask ourselves some questions:

What is the ultimate goal in my life?

What is the ultimate goal in my practice?

How much time will I devote to my practice and learning?

Is it enough to accomplish my goal?

Am I honestly doing everything I can to progress in my practice?

What is my strongest motivation to practice?

What inspires me to practice or learn when I’d rather do something else?

What is the one book or recorded talk that I can really get into by reading or listening to it on a regular (daily is ideal) basis?

And the final question:

How much time do I have left in this lifetime?

I Have Some Questions!

Question: I have a few questions. Hope you can help me with them. I haven't heard a lot about your Pure Land Buddhism. Is it very popular in Asia? Is the Pure Land Heaven? It sounds kind of selfish to want to go there but I must have missed something to think that. Isn’t Buddhism a religion? Is chanting the same as praying? Thank you!

Response: After almost 3000 years there are many forms of Buddhism being practiced. Forms of Pure Land are found in China, Japan, Malaysia, Tibet, and Vietnam, and to a lesser degree in other countries as well.

How they are practiced depends on many factors. A primary one is the master (or teacher). Our teacher, Master Chin Kung, stresses that Buddhism is a teaching of understanding the reality of our lives and everything around us, and that Buddhism is not a religion.

In the Visualization Sutra one of the three Pure Land sutras, there is a short, but vitally important paragraph where the Buddha tells Queen Vaidehi of the Three Conditions and how they are the true causes of attaining Buddhahood for all Buddhas of the past, present, and future.

The First Condition is to be filial and provide for parents, be respectful to and serve teachers, be compassionate and do not kill, and cultivate the Ten Virtuous Deeds.

The Second Condition is to take the Three Refuges, abide by all precepts, and behave in a dignified and appropriate manner.

The Third Condition is to generate the Bodhi mind, believe deeply in the law of cause and effect, recite and uphold the Mahayana sutras, and encourage others to advance on the path to enlightenment

In the Amitabha Sutra, another of the three Pure Land sutras, the Buddha emphasized the importance of being "good men and good women." To qualify as such, a person must accomplish the above eleven practices.

We do not pray to Buddhas, we respect them. The Buddha himself asserted that he was not a god and explained that he was "awakened."

Our practice is to chant the name of Amitabha Buddha. Understanding that everything is created by our minds (not a higher being) we chant to form a connection with Amitabha Buddha, to become one with him and thus with all Buddhas. Understanding that every thought is a cause that will produce a result, our chanting is the cause that will result in our being reborn in the Pure Land. This is simply karma, cause and effect, nothing more. It is not praying, but rather diligent work on our part.

The Western Pure Land is not a heaven. Heaven is still within the cycle of rebirth. The Pure Land is not within the cycle of rebirth. We do not go to the Pure Land to enjoy the pleasures of living in a paradise. We go to learn how to help all beings end their suffering just as students go to a university to continue their studies.

The beauty of the pure land is the result of the purity of the minds of the beings who are there. Just as our world with all its unhappiness and conflict is the result of our impure minds. As soon as we are ready, we will return to this and other worlds to help all beings. This is a major difference between the Heaven and the Pure Land.

Amitabha Buddha will help us just as any good teacher will help an earnest student. He is not a god. But unless we reach out to him, he cannot help us. Our reaching is our chanting and our accomplishment of the eleven above practices.

These practices help us to be moral, compassionate, wise people. They require hard work, constant mindfulness, and dedicated effort.

I know many people regard Buddhism as a religion. We do not. We read and study the Pure Land sutras and listen to our teacher explain them to us. We work hard to be moral and caring people who do not harm any beings. We practice and vow to go to the Pure Land so we will be able to learn all the ways to help others end their suffering.

We pay our respect to the Buddha for teaching us so wisely and tirelessly. We do everything possible to resolve the conflicts within each of us so we may help bring peace to ourselves, and in so doing, to our troubled world.

The Secure Way to Cultivate

In a certain town where the Buddha was teaching, his followers were always involved in severe arguments. The Buddha would then tell them about the story of King Longevity's tolerance in order that they might reconcile. The Buddha said, “It is impossible to end hatred with hatred. Only compassion and patience can extinguish the flames of resentment.”

Although many of them were moved by the Buddha's words and tried to do as he taught, there was still a minority who favored arguments and would never give in. At this time, the Buddha remembered the humble and patient Annurudha, who was then cultivating in the woods. So the Buddha went on his own to see him.

Besides Annurudha, Kimbila and Nandiya were also cultivating in the woods. The three of them were first cousins of the same generation, and they remained very close even after their renunciation. They had an agreement to follow the Buddha in all his instructions to cultivate.

Of the three of them, Annurudha had already attained the Arhat state, while Kimbila and Nandiya had also attained enlightenment in the summer retreat the previous year. Three holy ones coming together to cultivate obviously meant harmony and peace.

They had mutually agreed to abstain from speech except once every five days to report on their individual findings on their cultivation and how to improve on the content of their living. On normal days, the one who returned earliest from begging would have to prepare the beds, carry water for daily use and have the accessories laid ready for feet washing. Food that had been left over would have to be saved in a cool place or in uncontaminated water for the others who might not have enough to eat. When everything was prepared, he could then wash his own hands and feet, and tidy up the mat before practicing on chanting, sutra recitation, or meditation.

The next one to return could eat the leftover food, and if there should still be food left, he would have to go through the same procedure before doing his own practice. This would go on until the evening, when the one first to come out of meditation would check to see if there was still enough water for use. If not, he would have to go and get some more. If it was too heavy to carry, he could motion for assistance. Still remaining silent, they would carry the water together before returning to their rooms. This was the tranquil way of life they conducted in the serene woodlands.

The Buddha, who disliked places of bustling uproar, came to visit Annurudha in the woods. A sentry guarding the woodlands did not recognize the Buddha, and mistook him for a stranger. This was not surprising as the Buddha was always traveling to teach, and was usually accompanied by his followers. Coming forward to stop the Buddha, he said, “Please do not go in, as there are three holy ones practicing inside.” Smiling, the Buddha said calmly, “Please tell them they have a visitor. I am sure they would like to see me.”

The sentry did as proposed, and the three were very pleased to see the Buddha. They hurried out to welcome him, and quickly made his bed and poured water for him to wash his feet. After settling in, he asked, “Annurudha! Are you practicing securely here? Do you have lack anything?”

Annurudha replied, “Buddha! In my cultivation, I have been lucky to have good conditions and good fortune. Pure practice is with me, and I have abandoned subjective opinions in order to learn the conduct of the saints and virtuous. My cultivation is therefore very secure, and my mind is enriched and contented. I need nothing more.”

The Buddha then turned to Kimbila and Nandiya who assured him of the same. Very happy to hear that, the Buddha said, “You have practiced harmoniously without conflicts. You live so happily, devoting yourselves only to one mind, one merit, one teacher, one way. There is nothing better in life than this perfect harmony.”

Having expressed his praise, the Buddha further recounted his own past experience of cultivation to encourage them. Having left the crowd full of conflicts and met with the Sangha of concord, the Buddha felt delighted to have come to the woods. This unexpected visit from his Master also made Annurudha extremely blissful and thankful.

Note: Those with Buddhist Dharma within them are the wealthiest. The Dharma is a treasure which holds unlimited resources. But it is only when putting Dharma into practice that both body and mind can find peace and harmony.